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The Dr Joy Show
The Dr Joy Show
The Dr Joy Show with Dr Janice Hughes
Dr. Janice Hughes is wise, empowering, upbeat and WOW! What an amazing conversation on being present on this journey to joy. Janice is an incredible female leader and mentor. Enjoy this uplifting episode.
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Hello, and welcome to this episode of the Dr. Joy Show. I have the good fortune of being able to have a conversation today with my great friend, Dr. Janice Hughes. She's a chiropractor, mother, wife. She's a financial coach. She works with neurologists. She consults with her husband on concussions. She does so many beautiful things. She's a consummate entrepreneur, which I appreciate too. And, one of the things that I've found in this relationship is that Janice is driven by curiosity and relationship building. So thank you Janice for being here today.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Oh, it's so fun. It's so fun to reconnect.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Absolutely. Well, let's just jump right in. What is your definition of joy?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:I like to call it just lightness. I think it's a feeling. I think everybody again has their own unique definition of it or what generates it for them. I like that idea about, you know, if you think about an athlete who's really in the flow, I'll give you an example of Kobe Bryant. If you watch sports, I think it's really fun to see when there's joy because there's so much intensity in a sport. But then when the little kid comes out in someone and there was this clip years ago with the Lakers, where the now late Kobe Bryant, he had a game that he was just hot and he was shooting three pointers that were sinking from everywhere. There's a little clip where all of a sudden as he gets yet another three pointer and he turns and he looks at his coach Jackson and he does this little kid like, almost that joyful, in his body, like little jump in his shoulders and this big smile. And that's joy. So I think it's less about the words. I think it's about the feeling or the embodiment of an emotion and that's how I define joy.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:And you talked about the definition of the distinction between joy and satisfaction and fulfillment. Tell us more about that.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah. My background as a coach and how Dr. Laura and I met all those years ago, it was through a professional coaching organization, about, about your life and about your practice and to help other people understand that crazy, simple definition I'm saying, how do you feel like a kid again? If you think about it, we can all think about happiness in our life, like things that make us happy, that we smile or we can laugh. And I like to say that happiness is almost around us, whereas things that create satisfaction for us are really more like on our skin. Like if you take and you hold your wrist or you hold your forearm. Satisfaction isn't just around you, it's on you. And then the word fulfillment is something very deep. And I think joy can happen at every one of those levels. I think the difference, and maybe it's my age now that the more I embody and bring into my body joy, not just from those happy life things, but the more that I have that on my skin and more importantly, deep within me, I think joy, like I say, can be at all levels, but wow. Like when you have that really deep within you, that's where you live a very, very blessed life,
_1_05-07-2024_094326:That's an amazing, one of the things that I've known about you forever, I mean, we met almost 20 years ago
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:right.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Is that you are very present in your life. You're present with the people in front of you. We've had opportunities to meet all over the country in different seminars and even one time I was visiting my mom, you happened to be speaking in Atlanta and we had an opportunity to get together. I have found that you're very clear when you have time, you will take it and you are focused. And when you don't, you're also very clear. Like, thank you very much. I'd love to see you, but I am not able to at this time. And so I appreciate that about you, that you have that authenticity and that clarity when, and in the presence that you have with people. So even one time recently, I needed someone who was objective and clear and I called you and you were on a ski trip and you picked up the call and we arranged a time to speak. I've never known you to shy away from hard conversations. And for me, that's one of the things that joy is about is the clarity and understanding what's in front of you and not having the fear of running away from it because we can understand what we can see.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah. Thank you for feeling that. I think that that's, one of my core values, the top value in my life is authenticity. Because of that, I think that anything that's like in the moment, It doesn't mean we have 20 minutes to talk with someone, but if we can hold great eye contact or on the phone, if we can really, again, feel or be present with that person, not just because you do a FaceTime or an audio and a visual, like we're doing people listening to your podcast are only going to hear the words, but if they know that you're really locked and loaded. It's thanks to a lot of experiences in life, but particularly being a practitioner, I realized that, if I could really be there with someone like in that space bubble with them in that moment, it's kind of like the heart chakra, they feel very different. They feel your presence, they feel heard, even if you're telling them something really challenging. So, even as a practitioner, if we're telling someone that we've taken a basic x ray of their shoulder, and I had this, my third patient in private practice had a huge lump in and under her armpit. And that came up in a basic shoulder neck x ray. Now we didn't exactly know what that was. I mean, very long story short, we were very fortunate. It was only a lipoma that was in there, but really around her nerve plexus that supplies her arm. I mean, that could have been cancerous. It could have been really horrific and being able to be so present with that third person in my first private practice, to talk about it, speak about it, to then be with her. And it's something that had been missed. It had been missed on the traditional side by multiple people. These people just taught me a lot. And so that is really, really important to me to Be present to be authentic and to talk about things that are even the hard things to talk about, but find a way to just start to dig in on that and be so present with someone that you can work through even those really challenging or ugly conversations.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Yes, absolutely. In your life, can you go back to an early joyful memory? Something when you were pre 18, when you were either a child or an adolescent?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah, I'm really fortunate to have a lot of them. I had a grandfather that was really, really, really influential in my life and he played multiple roles. He came from a background as farmer, then got into politics. My grandfather was one of those people that kids just flock to. And I can remember young, probably somewhere around four or five that it wasn't even about me with him. It was that I got to watch some friends that just flock to him. And I remember just being so joyful about the fact that I got to spend time with this really amazing man. It's almost like instead of it being fascinated with an athlete or fascinated with a clown at a circus or whatever that is, it's almost like I got to be that out of body person watching him with people with kids and kids can smell it like kids know if we are really present with them, you know, and I think that was just such a joyful thing as a young person to just know. And I think I spent a lot of my then life with him kind of in awe at who he was because of that joy factor. So that really rippled through. Obviously not only my first memories of him as a little kid, but then through my interactions with him until he passed away. So, multiple experiences along the way.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Are there any of those characteristics of your grandfather that you've tried to recreate in your own children?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah. I think myself as a female practitioner and for any of the females listening or men listening that have amazing women in their lives, are doing so many jobs and so many roles. And I realized that very young. I had my oldest son when I was interning before I was, officially licensed and in private practice. You're juggling so many things, you're doing so much stuff. And what I realized is how many times I wasn't in my body. I wasn't say really present with my kids. And because of starting a practice with a very young son, then, I had another little bit of an out of body experience. I caught myself in the sandbox with him on my morning off of clinic. My husband's a practitioner and he and I juggled our hours to who was with who our son versus who was in their clinics, you know, we had separate clinics I remember that out of body experience that I was in a sandbox playing with him and I was thinking about marketing strategies for my clinic and in an instant it hit me, that is so the opposite of the experience I had with my grandfather as a child. That influence then on something's really wrong with this. You know, how do I define being present? And how do I, no matter who I'm with, where I'm with, how can I be so present, even if I needed to then go into the clinic in the afternoon, but how could I get stuff out of my head and be just present with my small child? And then that really did influence my life and time. We have three boys and we, you and I used to laugh about that. You guys, you know, you and your husband with three girls, Dave and I, my husband with the three boys. I think that really influences us where we haven't been present to then go, wow, how do I, when I'm with them, be really with them. And likewise with my patients. I also needed to practice that then when I went into the clinic. How was I with them and not stressing about something on the home front. that I needed to do after clinic hours. Laura, that's a great question. I really think having then in my own busy challenged role as a mom practitioner doing some professional, politics, all the things we're really driven to do, or many of you with either multiple businesses or entrepreneurial ventures, how do we sometimes learn from the negative. Or where we're going, I'm not creating that joyful experience for those kids in my life, for those people that I'm around.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Absolutely. What a gift to have that distinction when your children are little. So that you can carry that through the rest of their life. I mean, we see that now. We had the gift of having all three of the kids home at Christmas and they made the decision to be present with us versus scattering their time with their friends and having just fitting us in when it was convenient. And so now they understand what that means to be present and the value that, that has. You know, as I'm doing these conversations about the journey to joy, one of the things that keeps coming up is what are those characteristics of joyful people and presence is one of those being present with those people. Are there other characteristics that you see in joyful people that you encounter or surround yourself with that seem to be a common thread?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:In my life now, you might call this something different, but I'll call it the ability to laugh at myself because let's face it. Just when I say, Oh, how important joy is for me, there are times that I'm ticked off I'm the opposite of present. And then something's really upsetting me, and the ability to pattern interrupt myself in the middle of something and laugh at myself, that in any of your lives where you can kind of see when, Oh, I am so So opposite to what I think is really important to me. And I think that we spend so much time beating ourselves up. I know that there was stages where I would really beat myself up about that. And some of you, it might be that, when you're not doing something perfectly, and I think perfection is really a false illusion. If we can say, wait a minute, now I'm doing the best I can. I'm focusing on excellence versus perfection that helps us take it from a self judgment to a kind of laughing at ourselves or at least a little bit more lightness about, yeah, I really messed up because, you know, here's me saying, so my son was what, probably two and a half at that time or three in a sandbox. Man, I'd love to pretend that I was always really present with my kids. And I would just be lying if I thought that. I think I learned the most or even more than when I wasn't. Even with my kids as I would be doing something or almost into that lecturing them on something, if I could stop myself and my kids began to think I was a little crazy because all of a sudden I'd say things like,
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squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Really trying to say. For me, I call that the ability to kind of take a step back and pattern interrupt and laugh at myself versus judge myself. And I really see that through all the people I've been fortunate to work with as clients or connect with at seminars. We would never say to someone else what we say to ourselves. We would never judge someone else the way we judge ourselves. So just that capability to laugh or lightness or pivot the way we are so harsh. I see that run through everybody that I've ever come across that I would say is in that more joyful experience.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:It's so funny you should say that because we also had something similar to the cancel cancel. I would say erase, step back, rewind, and I would repeat, or we would say, okay, I need a do over.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:what I meant. And I think that giving each other grace to be imperfect is so important. I joke with my husband all the time. I'm like, you are so lucky that I'm not perfect because I can't expect that from you.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Right.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:we have that running play, but that's such an important distinction with people to be able to have the grace to step back and not hold a grudge against themselves or against yourself. We know that self forgiveness is one of the pillars of being able to move beyond a situation.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Right. And that's what I mean. We would cut someone else slack usually more quickly than we cut ourselves some slack. And it is true. So just like what you're saying, the ability to realize we are imperfect and it's all just in degrees. I like that distinction. I used to tease a lot of people. Just go look it up in the dictionary, the difference in the word excellence and the definition of the word perfection, and I would now rather align with excellence. I'm doing the best I can with the tools that I have. And it is, it's consistently runs through how I define really successful people, or you might be defining them as joyful. I think it is a really common thing.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Yes. I've seen you from Canada to the U S Georgia to Colorado to Canada again. Is there a time in your journey where joy seemed distant when life was hard and you were going through a challenge and you weren't sure about the way back?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Lots, lots of times, you know, I say that ability to pattern interrupt and sometimes that could be instantly or sometimes it took days or weeks. Particularly, for me, it was that career wise, having babies with a big practice and you suddenly have a lot of people relying on you, staff. At the phase of having my middle and youngest, I had no associates at that point, running practice, putting some systems in place while I was going to take some time off. And probably personality wise was not meant to say, take a big length of time off and spend time with my kids for say a full maternity leave when they were little, but those expectations and then you add fatigue of having babies. And then even as that was all far more stable or figuring itself out and me bringing associates in, I tended to do that as I was being asked to speak and teach and the early coaching training. It was almost like spending a lot of that time, as you juggle projects, the person that suffered the most was say myself or time on myself. And now I'm so fortunate with all those experiences and that feeling of who am I and what does matter to me or what makes me tick. I got exposed to a couple of amazing coaches and mentors in my life. And then I found ways to just even bring more joy into those life pressures. So I'll give you a concrete example. Three sons, husband, politics and chiropractic, big practice, everyone in my life thought I'd lost my mind when I decided to take a motorcycle course and buy my first motorcycle. And, even to the point that, I mean, my father was ready to disown me and remember, I'm an adult now, but my father was ready to disown me. My husband was just incredibly worried, because he's like, are you having your midlife crisis a little bit early? And just explained to them that another important value in my life is freedom because of my personality and because of that pressure point and really being away from that and so many roles and expectations and realizing I was looking for little pockets of, we could define that now as joy. I was looking for some freedom while I was doing all those things. Instead of running away from practice or kids or a husband, I said, how can I have some of this now? And so it might sound crazy to people listening that motorcycle for me was about that ability to ride back and forth to the clinic. I didn't practice in the same town I lived in. So that ability for that 35 40 minutes on the way into the clinic on the way home from the clinic and what that freedom represented then go wholeheartedly into my next role. So, yeah, it came out of that pressure that wait a minute, like, I don't know about some of the rest of you, but you know, I would kind of wake up and go, I'm going to do this all over again today. And just that realization, like this is nuts. And so instead of running from it, finding what would help me embrace it even more. And it was something as simple. I kept saying to my husband, it's pretty inexpensive to have taken a course, love the freedom feeling and drive a motorcycle back and forth to the clinic or out. I was really fortunate. One of my patients, he really influenced again, that motorcycle feeling. He was a teacher and then you would never know it as he came in. He had an earring that had a skull on it and he'd have his leather jacket on. And that was a great kind of connection for me to go, he's finding pockets to express who he is, in a way that he's also really embracing the rest of his life. So yeah, that stuff, that silly stuff maybe all comes out of that pressure feeling of just not having that, you know, joy or lightness because we're taking our career or role so seriously.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Well, you have never been someone that I've known to shy away from a risk out of fear or false evidence appearing real. And you actually taught me one of the most important questions I've ever learned in my life and that I use with all of the people that I mentor with, whether it's a patient or a student. And that is if there were no rules and you could not fail. What does it look like? And so where did you learn that?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:I learned that actually from my grandfather, and then it cycled back a lot where career wise, one of my really first key mentors, guides was John Demartini and that same question comes up and then, where you and I met through. I'll call it like a really unique phase in chiropractic, the Master Circle, so that was one of the key questions. Dennis Perman really so eloquently talked about that. So you notice that something like from that little four or five year old being really wowed or enamored with my grandfather who asked that and lived his life that way. That's where some really. Like it cycles back to me a lot. So you're right. Then, what do we do is we see that same question out to everyone in our lives, don't we?
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Yes, absolutely. And you know, I remember back in 2006, we were at a Master Circle seminar in New Jersey and The Secret was just coming out and you had done a whole talk on The Secret and it was, be clear about what you want, be willing to ask for it and be open to the result because it may not be what you expect.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:And I remember taking all of my notes and I happened to be meeting with a friend of mine who is a musician in New York. And we went out that night and he was taking me to his church, the oldest Ethiopian Orthodox Coptic church in Harlem. And I was so inspired by your talk and he and his girlfriend were going to be doing music and motivation at this church in Harlem. And I said, Hey, if you need me to get up and say a few words, I'd be happy to share The Secret. And he said, well, what is that? So I told him, and I was just kind of joking about it. Well, at the end of the service. It was African celebration days. There were people all over the streets. We had to wait for a break in the parade to get to the church. And after the service, he and his girlfriend did the music and motivation. And then he says, and I'd like to welcome my West coast associate, Dr. Laura LaJoie to come up and say a few words. And I was like, okay, so I get up there. And I tell the story. I'm using the notes that I got directly from you. And I talk about having clarity in what you want, being willing to ask for it and not being attached to the outcome. And the drummer is like hitting a beat on my words. And the woman in the front row is Amen hallelujah, and I actually had a Secret experience in that weekend because when we left the church I walked through Harlem and I took myself on the train and went to a Yankees game at the old Yankee Stadium I met a guy Greg And I was like, Hey Greg, you look like you're going to the game. He said, yeah, I'm meeting my son. I said, well, I need a ticket. He said, don't buy it on the street. Go to the box office. I'll walk you there. So we walked to the box office and the woman says, you can have a ticket here or here. And I said, well, Greg, what do you think? He says, you want this one? So he helps me to buy a ticket on the third base line in the box seats. It's game four of a Yankees Red Sox series. ARod is on base like it was crazy. So then I leave that experience, go visit some friends in the bar. And the next day I go out to Long Island and I visit with a friend. And I have to leave to come back to Oregon the next morning and I get back on the train from Long Island and I get off at Madison Square Garden and I'm like, I don't have anything to do tonight. It's seven o'clock. What's happening at Madison Square Garden? So I walk up to the box office and what's happening, but The Who is playing. And so the woman's like, I said, are there any tickets? She said, well, I have this one ticket right here. And I said, well, show me where it is on the. Arena. It's 13 rows back on the aisle on the floor with The Who. Oh my gosh. It was so crazy. And I'm positive that all it was was this manifestation of saying I'm open to whatever is happening here. My husband said he's never letting me travel like that without him again. I had such a good time, but that kind of stuff happens for us all the time because we're open to the experience. Thanks.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:right. If we're open. If we're really present and I think again, you think about that in the flow, no coincidence we started talking basketball or a sport, when you are in the flow, that magical stuff begins to happen. And some of it is really crazy. For any of you listening that don't know New York, the train alone that she was on is what people get mugged on, or going into Harlem if you're not from there. So there's a lot of those real world fears or, Oh, this could happen. Well, yeah. But I think if you're in this flow, instead you meet Greg, you're describing, who helps you choose which ticket to purchase and people come up to you then suddenly when you were in that flow and really present with the craziest,
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squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:crossing, a border that we should not have been crossing, with guys with AK. you know, 49, whatever that gun is, I'm not a gun person, but just wacky, wacky things that we had a pastor with us. We had a minister that helped facilitate all of that. So, so you're right. Like these examples, and I have no idea. I never knew that story, but these ideas are not our own, you know, or I had already before that talk, you're describing, I did. I'll call it the quantum physics, the science behind. abundance or attraction. And then it was not very long later, maybe a year or a year and a half later, that things like The Secret, the book, the movie, and the parts that people will shrink away from is even sometimes what came out in that book. early Rhonda Burns work was, Oh, well, they give the examples of it being about monetary attracting a car or jewelry. That's just one little piece of it versus you attracted was life experiences and joyful experience in those moments. That's really what the science, the quantum physics, and, the basics of things like that. We are just light. We are just light beings, and our vibration, our cellular vibration is what has us in this here and now having the children that we have. And so there's a lot of science behind it and your joyful moments and example, that wasn't my idea. It was how the learning of things like the secret was a good example of the science. I love the pure science of it too.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Absolutely. And honestly, much to my mother's dismay, I don't know a stranger and so I will talk to anyone. In fact, when there's things that I'm considering doing, I will either A, not call my mother until it's over. Or B, I will call her and she'll give me every pitfall so that I know what to watch out for. And, so she's been a real guiding light for me in that way. Is there anything else that you would like to share about joy or your journey to joy as we've been having this conversation?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:You know, just how much you represent that. You know, besides just who you are as a person and no, no coincidence, you're exploring conversation, the way you write about it, that first of all, the way you've lived your life, the way you write about it, the way you're now doing podcasts about it. Joy leaves clues. And within your name, it's who you are. It's why you probably drove your mother crazy growing up and why you wisely take her counsel, but sometimes tell her after the fact. And, I've learned as a mother, It's not my job to tell my kids, even as they venture into something terrifying. My middle son is a U. S. Marine. We may be historically in, My husband's grandfather was one of those early world war pilots, when you used to fly a tin can, you know, so there's a bit of military, but it is so new to us that calling for a son, from a healthy chiropractic family lifestyle to be called to do that. And the young men that he's around. What I have learned with my kids is that it's my role,
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squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:joy to put white light around them to energetically be able to connect when I'm not physically with them or age wise, able to be with them day in and day out as they're all around the world that I can still hold that vision, picture them, put white light around them. And we started this when our kids were babies when they were little. And I would sometimes ask my kids, can you feel the white light? Can you feel that mother's joy and love? to this day, my adult sons, you know, I will get these text messages from around the world. Can you just put some white light on me? And so for me, that's how it all comes full circle, you know, is it's one thing where it's about in my life, but when I can bring that joy to them, or help other people orient their lives around it, that's magic to me.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:That is amazing. It's beautiful. So before we move into the fast five, why don't you tell people what you're working on right now?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah. I've spent a lot of life and career either in private practice, helping other practitioners be in private practice. These days, my focus is all about brain and longevity. The biggest movement in healthcare is that awakening, which is not new to chiropractors. For all of you listening that don't see a chiropractor, I kind of laugh. I send everyone to chiropractors. Chiropractic and that ability for the alignment of brain neurology connection to the brain and body. How you live is your life is through your nervous system, through your brain. All it takes is having, a child who maybe doesn't have that connection with things like autism in their life. And I'm involved in a big autism project. All it takes is someone who has a concussion or a TBI. I'm involved in a really, really big brain project, and helping a lot of practitioners bring more focus of that into their practices. We're setting up clinics that can help specialize in that realm. So these projects that I do now, still aligning with a lot of practitioners, helping guide chiropractors themselves, Think we've forgotten that that's really what we do. That's kind of my old philosophy background. I studied with Fred Barge. And besides being a scientist and a practitioner, I have a diplomate in philosophy and really think that's all coming full circle for me now. So these projects or the help I love to give to practitioners and people is helping reconnect that for them and really realign their practices to that as well.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Incredible. I love the work that you're doing. Ironically, I just presented at our city council meeting last night about our city becoming a blue zone city, because I love that conversation about health and longevity. And so I feel like you and I are going to have a lot more conversations on both longevity and concussion. There's so many ways that I feel like I've aligned with you over the years, and I appreciate you so much in the work that you're doing. So let's move into the fast five. So I sent you the list. So you'd have a minute to think about it. So is there a song or an artist that brings you joy?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Lots, lot music in general, and the work I do with the brain stuff and a lot of functional neurologists, you know, they talk about, again, a certain frequency of music to basically, really realign brain and to even have kids maybe that are disconnected listen to. And I think the artist, the song that brings that out the most is that song, Happy, by Pharrell Williams, like kind of silly little jingle. That's what struck me as you were saying that, that it might still feel a little awkward to look up kind of some of that frequency of music, but if you're interested enough, start to look that up or ask Laura and I can send you some resources, but I think the song would be Happy.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Very cool. I love that. We actually have spontaneous dance parties in the clinic sometimes and we use that song.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah, that's what it does. That's what it brings out.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:What about a book that brings you joy?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:It was sitting on my desk. So when you sent me this morning, those questions, it's very easy. I don't know if you know Matthew McConaughey. This is my newest favorite book. It's called Just Because. He woke up, in the middle of the night, basically, like he was just startled awake the story. I don't know him personally. I would love to know him personally. But he woke up in the middle of the night and he just had to write this and he just wrote and wrote and wrote and wrote, and he said he needed to do that because then he finally went back to bed. And when he woke up, he thought, wow, like there's something here. And he's turned it the first version of it into this kid's book. the fastest and funniest way to get connected to it as search, just Google search YouTube search for he and Jimmy Fallon, him on Jimmy Fallon. And they turned. The book into a song and it is Adorable. You will be just like you and your clinic, you're doing a dance party to Happy anybody watching that Jimmy Fallon little feature. You'll be doing a dance party to Just Because. So I love that. And it sits right here. My husband wondered when I had it shipped to me from Amazon and he's like, are we having grandchildren that I don't know about yet? Like, why are you ordering this book and it sits right by my computer.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:That's hilarious. I have it sitting next to my bedside because I like to wind down in the evening with things that are will quiet my mind and not escalate. And one of our Rotarians recently said, what's the newest book by Matthew McConaughey? And I raised my hand. I said, Just Because he's like, well, no, it's Greenlights. I'm like, no, no, you're wrong. You need to read this.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Greenlights is brilliant. I love his book Greenlights as well. This is for all of us. It came through him. I really believe that. That's why he was startled awake in the middle of the night.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:That's amazing. What about a movie that brings you joy?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Ordinary Angels. And I don't know where did it come out in maybe early 2023. Many of you have seen the actor in The Reacher series. He's in that. It's lovely. It's absolutely lovely. And it's based on a true story. Even the female character, the female that it is embodying had lots of challenges, really, really troubled phase. And, she is an example of ordinary angels in life, in our lives. It is so moving to me. It is so about being embodied that we're talking about
_1_05-07-2024_094326:Sounds great. I feel like I've seen it, but I'll have to go back and watch it again. How about a joy hack or things that you use to hack into joy?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:just that presence that we talked about. And, the power of the affirmation. I am here. I am now. And when you do affirmations, if you can say things in the I am, that's really embodying it. And so as those moments or times in my life where I'm still not in the now, and I say that you cannot help but be in the now. So that's really that hack of how do I do this right now for me?
_1_05-07-2024_094326:That's beautiful. How about an Attaway? So an Attaway we define as a celebration for someone that you're cheering on or someone who's helped you along the way. So who's somebody that you'd like to give an Attaway to today?
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Right as soon as you wrote that, and I wasn't completely sure of your definition of an Attaway, which I love, by the way, it's a really, really dear friend of mine, Megan. And, she came into my life at the phase of being a neighbor, two doors over, building houses while we were having babies. I was in practice. She chose to stay home, raising their children from a very successful phase of career to being a stay at home mom for that right choice. She and I. early in our relationship, rode bikes together as an escape to have a hour away from our children. And, she has been such a significant friend and person in my life. And the real shout out to her is how present she is About the connection with me or with other people in her life. As she has gone through her own health challenges and had to learn that presence and have regular MRIs for a diagnosis in her life. She still would check in with me about the most minute things that I might have mentioned were coming up and to the point that we live half a continent away. And she is the person in my life that is so present that if I have told her, Oh yeah, such and such a date, you know, six weeks later, I'm going to be traveling to this. I'll literally get a text from her about safe travels today. Or how was that event? And that's how present she is with someone like myself. So that is huge for me.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:That's amazing. And as much as you value presence for yourself, that is such a gift to have somebody that reflects that back to you.
squadcaster-2058_1_05-07-2024_094327:Yeah. Really, really reflects that back.
_1_05-07-2024_094326:So Janice, thank you so much. I appreciate your friendship and your mentorship over the years. And I really hope that everybody really heard the nuggets that you dropped today on this episode. Friends, listeners, please keep listening to the Dr. Joy show. We're just getting started and I'm so excited to be bringing you great content on the journey to joy. You can find us on@drjoyshow on Instagram and Like and share this episode. Please review it if you enjoyed it and keep choosing JOY!